Wednesday, August 19, 2009

RETREAT FOR MOMMIES?

Is there a place tired worn out mommies can go for a break?
A place where you can sleep through the night without being disturbed and where you can sleep until you wake up – not until you are woken by a hungry cry or some kind of disaster.
Is there a place where mommies can go to get away from the daily mundane chores and duties? Where there is no laundry to do or meals to cook or cleaning to be done?
Is there a place where there are no children fighting and bickering with one another over the volume of the TV or the colour of the sky.

A place where mommies who have been run ragged can go to recoup and refresh their minds. To gather themselves and heal their hearts and minds from the emotional battering they get from being a mom. A place where it is quiet and calm and nobody rushes anywhere - ever.
A place where you don’t have to spend the day planning what you are going to make for dinner tonight with the bits and pieces left in your grocery cupboard cause the end of the month is just around the corner and you haven’t managed to get the store yet.
A place where there is no homework assignments left till the last minute or teachers sending letters requesting to see you about your child’s progress cause they are worried about him or her.

I doubt there is such a place, because mommies who go there would not be able to just sit back and do nothing without worrying about their children and wondering if they are getting to bed on time, getting fed and bathed properly and more than anything missing them so much that their hearts just might break. A mother’s work is never done. We do not know how to stop being mom’s even if there were such a place to go to for a few days. I know that for me the one thing that usually keeps me going, no matter how tired and worn out and miserable I am – is my children. Being with them, holding them, laughing with them, talking with them. They are the reason we want to live and sometimes also the reason we want to quit.

No, I don’t want to stop being a mommy – I just want a break, a time out, a get away so I can pull myself together because I am feeling like I am spreading myself so thin and there is not enough of me to go around anymore. I just want a coupla days off of being a mom – is it too much to ask?
And does it make me a bad mommy?
Does anyone understand what I am trying to say…?

5 comments:

lulu said...

Hello you, sorry man they formatted my PC and I missed your blogs until today. I think you did a wonderful job in that situation with your oldest son, hang in there he will realise and come around. Mine is just going into that 'awful' stage and I am glad to have a role model like you too gain some experience from, I too wish for a break now and then know how you feel!! hang in there xxx

Brigitte said...

LULU - thanks hun, it's good to know we are not alone hey? ;)

Brigitte said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
angel said...

I totally get you!

I sometimes- just sometimes- wish I had a switch I could flip so I could not think/ worry about my knucklehead so much...

lulu said...

It helps a lot to know we are not alone! he he I want that switch installed too Angel. xxx